T.M. Bernard
What if your love life depended on your ability to combine your need for safety and commitment with your need to explore your lust and urges? It’s a salient question from any way a person views relationship, but in this context, we will consider it from a tradition currently under the microscope (some might even say attack): monogamy.
It may shock you to learn that I, who fancy myself a writer, appreciate words. Words have meanings, and using the right word helps us to communicate effectively. I’m also a huge proponent of proper grammar, punctuation, and spelling. Among other things, my love and respect for language are right there in almost every online […]
You may have heard that with the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (the DSM-5), the American Psychological Association had “depathologized kink;” that the paraphilias (Fetishism, Sexual Masochism, Sadism… all of the ISM’s close to our hearts) are no longer necessarily diagnosable mental illnesses. This is tremendous news for kinky folks – especially […]
By T.M. Bernard
Dirk Westphal is a German artist whose piece entitled ‘Acrobat on High Heels’ was the Master Award Winner in the Erotic Signatures Collection, Vol. 3. It’s an eye-catching piece
By Shanna Katz
As of late, there has been a lot of discussion around the new Google+ policy of requiring “real names” from all of its’ users, which seems to have morphed into the requirement of “legal names.” There isn’t any exact and specific policy that defines a “real” name, and thousands of people have lost their profiles
Women aren’t really encouraged to get to know their bodies, especially when it comes to genitalia. They are taught from a young age that touching themselves “down there” is bad and that we shouldn’t touch, sniff, taste or even look at their genitals. Women are taught that our sexual pleasure and gratification doesn’t matter and […]
I look back in the past fifty or sixty years, when kink was really starting to be documented for the Mainstream Average Joe, and there is a stunning amount of growth in different fetishes and kinks. Even the most vanilla person uses the word “fetish” now in a joking way. A few years ago, when I was […]
A woman’s friends are incredulously disbelieving when she tells them that she and her husband, who uses a wheelchair and has several medical conditions, have an active sex life. A young blind man, who has just realized he is gay, asks his trusted resource teacher to help him learn how he can join his high […]
I first discovered Bailey because of his paintings of women from the waist down (I couldn’t help but look), but I was ultimately drawn in by combination of birds, beasts, lollipops and ladies. Eric Bailey’s work is sexy. It’s also sweet. These qualities exist above and below the surface. Flip through his portfolio and you’ll […]
I have a lot of casual sex (we’re talking a few thousand encounters with a few hundred partners over the last 20 years) and I absolutely love it. The vast majority of my hookups have been pleasurable, some were absolutely mind-blowing, some were crappy, and a couple bordered on abusive. With the exception of the […]