By Graydancer “It’s hard to wait for something you know might never happen, but it’s hard to give up when it’s everything you want.” – SexCigarsBooze, via Twitter Change is hard. It reflects an uncertainty to life that we don’t like. We like to feel like we know what’s going to happen, even when the […]
By lunaKM Foreplay. It is what we do to arouse ourselves and our partners before sex. We all have different things we enjoy for foreplay and the time we like to spend on foreplay before sex. Having sex with an overweight partner is about awareness as well as passion. You want to make sure that […]
By Sea
This article is third of a three-series article that explains what BDSM is, and why people enjoy it. It would be helpful to those with or without an interest in BDSM who wish to know more about the terms and origins
By Amethyst Wonder
This past month, I’ve gotten at least three messages from people who I’ve already talked to/met/gone out with and, for whatever reason, dismissed as potential partners. Actually, they were all dismissed as potential anything (for me).
By Lucy Lemonade
Any proper Stepford kinkster understands that the brain is the largest erogenous zone. We may dress in prim cardigans or freshly ironed dress shirts, but our filthy words can melt glass. Dirty talk, like any foreign language, can be learned with a little time and concentration.
By Shanna Katz
Let’s look a little at opening our minds, and looking towards learning more about the wants, needs and kinks of others in the community.
The concept of “Your Kink Is Not My Kink” has been a long standing tenet of the kink community, both in real life and online.
By Amethyst Wonder
Way, way, back in the day, when it first occurred to me to look for kinky partners on the internet, before I’d ever had casual partners, before my needs had evolved into their current state of complexity, before I developed my processing or communication skills, I had an online interaction that I wish I’d handled differently.
By Micah Schneider
If you’ve been paying attention to this column since it began last year, there is a new article every month. The exception being when our little Munchkin was born three months ago, but I got a pass for that.
By GrayDancer
If you don’t know what I’m talking about, count yourself lucky.
But I’m betting most of you do. Life is pretty messy, after all, and it’s not always as easy as finding your wife in bed with the gardner, or the traditional lipstick-on-the-collar.
By Amethyst Wonder
You know what I’m really starting to hate? People sending me messages written as though they know me.
This is the verbatim text of two actual messages I received on FetLife…