By Selina Minx
Sensuality and Ceremony have a long and wonderful history of being used together to achieve tangible effects. From ancient fertility rites to the Tibetan practices of “self cultivation”, from the Tantrists of India to the western sex magick tradition.
By AliceSin Aerie
Within our own minds, the thing that turns us on the most is sacred. For some of us in the kink community the high value we place on our personal kinky hot button can leave us feeling lonely in a crowd, bullied or even make us into bullies ourselves.
My day job consists of me writing for an instructional porn company for men. Yeah, I know. Of the numerous emails we get from men asking how to be the man that all women want and all men envy, we get a few from the women who have discovered their men buying instructional sex videos. [...]
“I know for a FACT that, if I actually wanted to or TRIED, I could fuck ANY ONE of my ex-girlfriends!” My other male co-workers nodded in unison at The Cartoonist’s affirmative statement. “Bullshit,” I replied. I demanded that there was no way in hell any guy I’d already been with could just magically get [...]
Perhaps the most prevailing trope, the belief to trump all beliefs, about people with disabilities and sex is that we have more important things to worry about, more important things to focus on, than being sexual. Sex permeates our culture, affecting everything from hemlines on skirts to the way cars are advertised, yet for people [...]
You’ve probably all heard that there’s nothing to fear but fear itself. If you’re anything like me, you probably always wondered what the fuck that even meant and why everybody always said it to you when you were scared of something (I personally told all said people to fuck off and fear my wrath if [...]
We’ve all inherited many misconceptions about the erotic, causing so much fear and guilt. Some are based on old taboos; others on unrealistic expectations. They are like demons hovering over us, heckling and harassing us. And they’re not as easy to get rid of as we’d like, especially when you’re not quite sure what they [...]
Very few people have been given healthy approval, support and respectful privacy to self-pleasure. On the contrary, most people have vivid memories of being overtly shamed at a young age by others about the natural discovery of sexual self-stimulation. Just a few short decades ago, the ignorance and shaming of masturbation in the medical field [...]
This article is a continuation of Experiments for Better Sex: Part 1 So now for the specifics… 1. Identify The first thing you have to do is take a good look at your sex life and identify what’s going on. Admit you have a problem, in other words. Ask yourself—and your partner—two questions: What do [...]
Conservative Christians would have you believe that the founder of their faith demanded sexual purity – no nookie before marriage, not much after, and all restricted to heterosexual intercourse. As one talk-show host summed it up: “Sex is so dirty, you should save it for the one you love.” Uh huh. Well, guess what? Jesus [...]