By AliceSin Aerie
If it’s happened once it’s happened a thousand times: You meet someone you think you might like so you make plans, or at least make plans to communicate again, only to have them fall off the face of the planet.
By Selina Minx
Current research in quantum mechanics shows us that modern conception of “freedom of choice” is a actually a quite limited perspective. The idea that we must choose between two things is a monumental mistake based on earlier theories of mathematics and reality. While many of us were learning our basic math, quantum physics was just a wild little dream in a few physicists’ kinky little heads.
“Swans mate for life.” Heard that before? I’m sure someone reading this has. Just one problem – closer scientific observation has shown that it ain’t necessarily so. Some swans cheat, have open marriages, and even divorce. Besides, we’re not swans. We’re not even in the same class. So why do some religious folks try to [...]
A deeply neglected aspect of community safety in my opinion, is that of Due Care by the top. According to USLegal.com the definition of Due Care is “The effort made by an ordinary prudent or reasonable party to avoid harm to another, taking the circumstances into account.”
I have always thought that polyamory had the ability to challenge and strengthen the muscles of communication in a relationship. Nothing challenges a poly relationship more than a play event.
This past weekend V and I attended Dark Odyssey: Winter Fire (DOWF), a hotel event with sex ed workshops, parties and open play spaces.
Hey, tops. How do you feel when a bottom says “Why did you do that?”
Hey, bottoms. How do you feel when a top slaps your hand away from the rope and mutters “Don’t help.”
Here’s an even more fun one, for those of you in a relationship, mono or non- : “So, now that we’ve met [NAME], what do you think of [GENDER PRONOUN]?”
I always find it difficult to explain our dynamic. I am a willing slave. I gave M complete ownership of me. And yet, saying that doesn’t tell you much. For a person can own someone completely, but choose not to take complete control. And unless you’ve been exposed to kink on some level, the images that come to mind when one mentions slavery are not pretty.
Starting off poly in a committed relationship is not easy. Polyamory works differently for every couple and every individual. I’ve met many couples who share partners, couples who date others individually, and couples that play with others strictly at parties and events.