At this moment in time a paradigm shift is occurring that is reawaking the divine feminine a lot faster than the divine masculine. Within this shift women are starting to step more into their power by trusting their natural intuitive gifts, stepping outside of the perspective of just being a mother and wife and embracing […]
In an earlier column I discussed the idea of kinky community as a collection of smaller groups rather than one great behemoth. I looked at the idea that perhaps we have gotten so large, so encompassing in our demographics and sub-groups that one definition of ‘us’ is ill-fitting and due for a makeover. The bigger […]
As the bright greens of summer fade into the golden hues of fall, the way most of us dress will change with the seasons. While some of us live in climates that don’t vary much as the world tilts on its axis, many of us see more drastic changes in temperature. The transitional periods can make […]
Much like many kinky people, I’m often prone to over-analyze things. This has been a source of much suffering in my life. Back when I was a kid, and having my first shameful fantasies about getting spanked, I used to obsess about it. Was it bad that I wanted these things? I tortured myself for […]
You’ve probably all heard that there’s nothing to fear but fear itself. If you’re anything like me, you probably always wondered what the fuck that even meant and why everybody always said it to you when you were scared of something (I personally told all said people to fuck off and fear my wrath if […]
There was a lesbian couple where one partner was dominant and the other partner was a switch. The switch could not always accommodate the dominant partner’s wants and so they discussed opening their relationship to bring in other submissives who would rank below the switch. And they decided to do just that with submissive men! […]
In the wild world of business taxes, expenses get the most attention. Business people want to focus on them because they lower income, thus lower tax due. Well, something many business people do not know is that income is scrutinized just as carefully as expenses by the ever vigilant hawk-like eyes of the IRS agent. […]
Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades of Grey is a great concept, having the trilogy ‘read round the world’ and discussed by professional writers. The potential for insight & reasoning is huge. The Fifty Shades Trilogy has raised a lot of libidos and a lot of hackles, so there’s a wide range of reactions to explore. There are a […]
I recently wrote a piece called, “How I Practice Good Poly”, which you can see on my blog and on Fetlife. In it, I give a broad overview of some of the strategies and techniques I employ in all of my relationships. One of the ways I practice good relationship is by choosing the Path […]
One of the things that each marginalized community needs to work on learning is that we must support our allies in other communities, in order to ask them to support us. As a member of several marginalized communities, as well as a staunch ally to others, it so saddens me when I see the division […]