Fashion is only for Women!

 Posted by on November 10, 2012
Nov 102012

istock_000019980711small-300x199-3206411Any discussion of fashion usually revolves around women. Specifically, fashions only women are supposed to wear, be interested in or care about. Even if men are the ones leading the discussion, it is almost always centered on women’s wear. During Fashion Week we only see or hear about shows that depict women’s wear.

Fashion seems to be gendered. Sure, men can be into fashion, but they have to be in some way assisting a woman in her outfit choices or be working with women’s wear.  A great example of this is the gay best friend meme that we’ve seen on numerous media platforms (Sex and the City depicting one of the most iconic forms of this). It’s a very stereotypical view of gays (which is a whole other topic) but nonetheless he is always interested in fashion and beauty, in on the latest trends and can be somewhat vain. They are always acting as “sidekicks” to the women and never talking about men’s fashion or their own attire, and if they do, they are shamed and talked about as being narcissistic.

Also, men’s fashions are not seen as important as women’s. You hardly ever see men’s fashion being talked about in the media, fashion magazines or blogs. While men are a present force in fashion, they are not making men’s clothing. Of the four finalists on Project Runway this season, three were men. But there was not any men’s wear shown in the runway shows (the finalists show their collections during Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week). So men can create fashion and even dominate the industry, but they can’t get to the top my making menswear.

I think this says a lot about gender roles in our society. Women are supposed to be into appearance and there is an emphasis placed on achieving beauty. They are supposed to work out and have “fit” bodies, perfect make-up, flat-ironed hair and the perfect outfit. Only men can leave the house in sweats! With this, comes the domination of the fashion industry. We are told what to wear, how to wear it, what we need to buy and what we can’t live without! And next season, the process is done all over again.

As for men that want to (somewhat) enter into this process? They are immediately labeled as weird, too feminine and gay. Didn’t you know, only girl’s care about their looks! If you have a penis and you are trying to match your tie to your loafers, you are not normal.  That attitude is so oppressive and forces men and women to live in boxes it is all but impossible to escape from.

We need to have more voices that are being heard about men’s fashion! We need to have more people willing to break out prescribed gender roles! We need to have women appear disheveled and not care and men be perfectly primped and proud of it! It’s time we revolutionize how we think about fashion! Because it can be a game for two.

  2 Responses to “Fashion is only for Women!”

  1. That being said, I was recently in a fetish wear boutique with a couple of female friends, and I was looking through the available outfits for men. I held up a few different ones to get their reactions, expecting a simple yes/no – but instead they both started going on a rant about how ridiculous it was that men would dress up in such things because they looked so ridiculous. It wasn’t directed at me, but in a way that was worse – as if I was suddenly in some alternate universe where female chauvinism ruled.

    It seems like a damned-either-way trap for men in the BDSM world. If you wear DomStandard, black jeans, boots, and a black tshirt, you are called unimaginative. If, on the other hand, you try to expand beyond into something that pushes the envelope…then you are also ridiculed. There needs to be more choices.

    I do think it is slowly changing, both within and without the kink scene. Shows like Mad Men are improving the attire of men and making them take more care in what they wear. However, the same thing applies – the variety available to women vastly outstretches that available (easily) to men, in my experience.

    Great article!

  2. Right on ! Everything expressed here is 100 percent true and will be changed by non-scared males.