To Have, Or Just To Hold

 Posted by on November 18, 2012
Nov 182012
 
To Have, Or Just To Hold

Often I have wondered if the way I touch someone has been physically and emotionally perceived as I intended it.  Was the touch received as gentle when I meant it to be firm?  Was the touch received as intimate when I meant it to be casual?  It’s hard, really, to practice touch. There are so […]

Using the Force

 Posted by on October 30, 2012
Oct 302012
 
Using the Force

Editors Note: This article is about consensual BDSM. The author nor the site condones any time of non-consensual abuse. If someone wants to be beaten and is beaten, are they really being beaten? Of course they are! If someone wants to be tied up and is tied up, are they really being tied up? Of […]

A Touch of Consent

 Posted by on October 26, 2012
Oct 262012
 
A Touch of Consent

Last weekend I experienced the following: My hand was kissed in a gloriously, old-fashioned way I’ve only read about in books. I touched a friend’s party dress and spike heels. I received a lovely hug from an actress in the adult film industry. Perhaps these situations seem unusual to you.  Perhaps they seem unconnected.  Perhaps […]

Consent and Assault… again?!

 Posted by on October 15, 2012
Oct 152012
 
Consent and Assault… again?!

OK, I will confess, I really wanted to write something else.  I really wanted to write about the interesting obscenity case going on in the United Kingdom, or about whether prostitution laws apply to pro-dommes.  I really wasn’t planning on writing another “you can’t consent to assault in the context of a BDSM relationship” article.  […]

Who are you Going to Call?

 Posted by on August 29, 2010
Aug 292010
 

by Brian Flaherty

If I had my way, the only place Kink and Law would intersect would be in the playroom, and then only after some negotiation. I mean… who doesn’t appreciate a good private-interrogation, salacious-arrest or barter-for-prison-privileges scene? I picture a leather-clad cop, reflective sunglasses, meticulously strapped with an oversized… but I digress.