Jan 222013
Playing Well With Others: an interview with Lee and Mollena

Your new book Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities is soon to be released, why did you two decided to co-author it? Lee –  I was at a kink conference where a guy who was new to the scene showed up and was […]

But I AM Communicating!

 Posted by on December 24, 2012
Dec 242012
But I AM Communicating!

We’ve all learned the secret to good, successful relationships by now, right? Communicate, communicate, communicate! It’s one of the favorite mantras of relationship counselors the world over. Whether you’re trying to solve issues with integrating your girlfriend’s boyfriend’s new lover into your poly family, planning a special activity with your spouse of 30+ years to […]

Let’s Start from the Top. Or is it Bottom?

 Posted by on December 20, 2012
Dec 202012
Let’s Start from the Top. Or is it Bottom?

“I want to be a dominant! People tell me I should start out as a submissive. Is that right?” Let’s start by taking a look at two reasons why people might suggest this idea. More so in early days of the public and organized BDSM scene, many saw a hierarchy of ranks between dominants and […]

Planning a Kinky Dinner Party

 Posted by on December 14, 2012
Dec 142012
Planning a Kinky Dinner Party

With the holidays coming around the corner, it is the time where people get together to celebrate. In the kink scene, there can be a number of different social gatherings. There is the conference, the workshop, a munch, or a play party are examples. But sometimes it can be more enjoyable to socialize without worrying […]

Becoming Badass

 Posted by on December 7, 2012
Dec 072012
Becoming Badass

There’s something of a crisis of celebrity in kink world.  There just aren’t enough superstars for us to look up to.  This is completely opposite of what we hear about mainstream society, where celebrity worship is blamed for the downfall of society on a regular basis.  Kink-dom does have a few who qualify for name-in-lights […]

Schrodinger’s Heart

 Posted by on September 21, 2011
Sep 212011

By Graydancer “It’s hard to wait for something you know might never happen, but it’s hard to give up when it’s everything you want.” – SexCigarsBooze, via Twitter Change is hard. It reflects an uncertainty to life that we don’t like. We like to feel like we know what’s going to happen, even when the […]