Having Lao Standards I remember when I first got involved with kink, there was no shortage of people willing to “show me the ropes”, often quite literally. It wasn’t too long after I got started, that I started to hear about “true” dominants, and submissives. But how is one to know who’s got it right? […]
This is is an excerpt from ‘The S&M Feminist: Best Of Clarisse Thorn’ You can buy The S&M Feminist for Amazon Kindle here or other ebook formats here or in paperback here. I often say that all consensual sexuality is okay. Open relationships? S&M? Same-sex partnerships? One-night stands? Porn? I could care less how people […]
The world is incredibly big, and we? We are individuals, small in the big picture. To deal with that, we develop ideas that help us get along. We develop the idea of family, of community, of national identity. Each idea fits in context to shape our experiences in life. This is true for kinksters as […]
As a sex-positive business attorney, I have heard about, discussed and drafted agreements relating to a number of things many would find “kinky” or “taboo.” At this point, over nine years in to my practices, there isn’t much that can shock or scandalize me, and the same can be said for many of my clients-with […]
I’ve been a person who goes with her gut for decades now, and my gut is sending very strong signals that my first article for Fearless Press be about taking up arms. How does this map to a column about health, communication and relationships? How, indeed. Have you ever been in a moment with someone […]
Bodhisattva Warrior, which means attaining enlightenment but foregoing nirvana to help others, is a level of perfection that is far beyond my reaches and understanding to grasp. I view submission as working on imperfections but being accepted for who I am in the now. My submission rarely reaches perfection. There is always something I can work on; […]
With an onslaught of books, articles, and websites dealing with non-monogamy and poly relationships, more people seem to be giving “alternate relationship structures” a try. Books, such as Opening Up and Sex at Dawn, have helped individuals that felt trapped and alienated by societal expectations of monogamy to consider options beyond one-on-one coupledom. A variety […]