Where to start?

 Posted by on December 17, 2013
Dec 172013
Where to start?

Dear Sarah,

My partner and I are just starting to explore service-giving & receiving, and I must confess that I’m stumped as to how to start. Yesterday, I helped her dress and tied her shoes, and I enjoyed it greatly, but I’m not sure where else to go. Please help?


Novice Dominant

 Posted by on October 4, 2011
Oct 042011

By Sarah Sloane Dear Sarah, I am a novice dominant and I’m interested in finding a submissive; I’ve been trying to get to know people at my local munch group (as well as online) but I’m having trouble with finding someone special. Some people treat me like I don’t know anything because I’m young (I’m […]

Aching to Serve

 Posted by on July 24, 2011
Jul 242011

By Sarah Sloane

Dear Sarah,

I identify as a slave in a full-time Master/slave dynamic with a strong service component to our relationship. I also suffer from chronic pain which has persisted over a year and escalated in the last few months.

Struggling with Desires

 Posted by on July 1, 2011
Jul 012011

By Sarah Sloane

Dear Sarah:

What would you suggest for someone who struggles with expressing sexual and S&M desires? I have them…in spades…but I have issues asking for what I want, both because of fear of rejection but also struggling with seeming “too weird”. I have an odd play history…

Thanks, but no thanks!

 Posted by on May 19, 2011
May 192011

By Sarah Sloane

Dear Sarah,

My problem isn’t so much about getting into a relationship, it’s about staying away from one! I am somewhat experienced in the BDSM scene, but I realized I’m having trouble saying no to people for play and sex…

Single, searching submissive

 Posted by on March 25, 2011
Mar 252011

By Sarah Sloane

Dear Sarah,

Last year in your column, you wrote about what a dominant should look for when screening potential submissives. As a submissive, I find that there are a lot of people out there that are looking for someone to be submissive for them, but I have trouble narrowing down the people who are serious about it

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

 Posted by on February 19, 2011
Feb 192011

By Sarah Sloane

Dear Readers,

This month, my column isn’t an answer to a single email. It’s a response to a number of people who contacted me in various ways to ask if I could give them some input on how to handle breakups involving our partners and their other partners, or within a poly group.