Where to start?

 Posted by on December 17, 2013
Dec 172013
Where to start?

Dear Sarah,

My partner and I are just starting to explore service-giving & receiving, and I must confess that I’m stumped as to how to start. Yesterday, I helped her dress and tied her shoes, and I enjoyed it greatly, but I’m not sure where else to go. Please help?



 Posted by on September 4, 2013
Sep 042013

by C.K. Persons

The Trinity – the doctrine or teaching that God is Father/Creator, Son/Redeemer, and Holy Spirit/Sanctifier – is central to Catholicism. But no one fully understands the Trinity. That is why so few people ever talk about the Trinity; the focus is usually on one or another Person of the Trinity (the Father, or Jesus, or the Holy Spirit), rather than God as Triune (three in one).

Please Skip the Please, Thanks for not Thanking Me

 Posted by on February 18, 2013
Feb 182013
Please Skip the Please, Thanks for not Thanking Me

A question arises in BDSM circles from time to time. Should a dominant say please and thank you when interacting with a sub? The title of this column might make you think that please and thank you are for the fakes. Not so! I am not here to say that dominants should avoid saying please […]

Dec 082012
Meditation: A Possible Path To Present Submission

I decided to meditate before a play session earlier this month.  I had a busy morning. I had some spiritual meetings to attend before I came back to being present for a play session, and since I was hyper-focused on everything going on, short of what I really should have been focusing on, I decided […]

Can Buddhism Be A Style of Love and D/s?

 Posted by on September 17, 2012
Sep 172012
Can Buddhism Be A Style of Love and D/s?

Self-love and loving in Buddhism takes on various forms both mentally, emotionally, and physically. Recently Tantra has been a new popular sexual lifestyle which has incorporated not only fulfilling sexual urge but has opened new doors to sexual enlightenment towards others and towards self.  Classes, workshops, and retreats have been created around this way of […]

BDSM Explained: Acronyms Abound

 Posted by on July 11, 2011
Jul 112011

By Sea

This article is first of a three-series article that explains what BDSM is, and why people enjoy it. It would be helpful to those with or without an interest in BDSM who wish to know more about the terms and origins of interest, and those into BDSM who are looking for ideas for how to explain it to others.

Single, searching submissive

 Posted by on March 25, 2011
Mar 252011

By Sarah Sloane

Dear Sarah,

Last year in your column, you wrote about what a dominant should look for when screening potential submissives. As a submissive, I find that there are a lot of people out there that are looking for someone to be submissive for them, but I have trouble narrowing down the people who are serious about it

Where Unimportance Takes Us

 Posted by on January 19, 2011
Jan 192011

By Rayne

People occasionally talk about ignoring someone (or being ignored) as punishment in a consensual owner/property relationship. For those who believe in ”Let the punishment fit the crime.” it’s often used in response to the submissive being disrespectful in speech. And M has never really used it.