May 232013
Stalking the Elusive "Unicorn"

Once you get into the online polyamory world, it won’t be long before you see your first personal ad from a couple looking for their “unicorn”. All of you poly veterans out there are already nodding your heads. In the poly world, a “unicorn” is a young, single, non-crazy, sexually adventurous, drug and disease-free bisexual […]

Poly Math

 Posted by on December 2, 2012
Dec 022012
Poly Math

Polyamory and poly relationships are complex. Which is no surprise if you know anything about or have any experience with polyamory. But for people new to poly, managing poly relationships is an exercise in higher math that they might not be aware of. Let’s take a simple example, and one common to the kink world. […]

The Path of Kindness

 Posted by on November 20, 2012
Nov 202012
The Path of Kindness

I recently wrote a piece called, “How I Practice Good Poly”, which you can see on my blog and on Fetlife.  In it, I give a broad overview of some of the strategies and techniques I employ in all of my relationships.  One of the ways I practice good relationship is by choosing the Path […]

Oct 072011

By Micah Schneider In the last month, I’ve seen this question come up in more than one place. Is polyamory something that you do, or is it something that you are? Are some people poly the same way some people are homosexual or straight, submissive or dominant or a greedy bisexual switch? My answer is […]

STI Comfort Zone

 Posted by on August 10, 2011
Aug 102011

By Micah Schneider

A friend messaged me the other day to ask for advice. This friend was in a bit of a bind, and wanted an outside opinion. My friend, who has been poly for a long time, has a partner who has started a relationship with someone new.

Shrinking Hard Limits

 Posted by on June 6, 2011
Jun 062011

The Evolution of a Kinky Relationship

By Indigo
There comes a time in a long term kinky relationship when a couple’s hard limits begin to change. After being with my partner for as long as I have, I’ve started to realize that we’ve tried a lot