Gray is the sole proprietor of satorimedia LLC, a multimedia company formed in 1998. He has published two books and is working on a third, with numerous articles and short stories in other publications. He is also the founder of Graydancer's Unconference Extravaganza (GrUE) which is poised to invade Europe late in 2011. Gray is both faculty and staff at the Kink Academy and Passionate U, and has worked as a professional rigger and model for sites such as, the Twisted Factory, and Beauties in Bondage. Read Full Profile...

A Tribute to Jeff Gord

 Posted by on September 24, 2013
Sep 242013
A Tribute to Jeff Gord

“On the evening of September 3rd, 2013 we lost a master, a hero, and a true artist in every sense of the word. His lover Femcar was with him till the very end, although not by his side. She was in her proper place, on her knees naked, below his desk.” These words shocked the […]

Fuzzy Consent

 Posted by on September 1, 2013
Sep 012013
Fuzzy Consent

The issue of consent has been growing both within and without the kink community in the past few years. Recently the National Coalition of Sexual Freedom began their “Consent Counts” campaign, endeavoring to teach local law enforcement officials the difference between assault and kink. The difference, of course, is the consent of the individuals involved. […]

Schrodinger’s Heart

 Posted by on September 21, 2011
Sep 212011

By Graydancer “It’s hard to wait for something you know might never happen, but it’s hard to give up when it’s everything you want.” – SexCigarsBooze, via Twitter Change is hard. It reflects an uncertainty to life that we don’t like. We like to feel like we know what’s going to happen, even when the […]

Agley Play

 Posted by on July 22, 2011
Jul 222011

By Graydancer

At the recent Fusion event put on by Dark Odyssey, I was to do a demonstration for a class of how to do a slow, hot, sexy rope scene. Because, after all, I’m totally qualified to show others how it’s done, right? (“Bris is the name, Hugh Bris”).

The Best of the Worst of Times

 Posted by on June 19, 2011
Jun 192011

By GrayDancer

If you don’t know what I’m talking about, count yourself lucky.

But I’m betting most of you do. Life is pretty messy, after all, and it’s not always as easy as finding your wife in bed with the gardner, or the traditional lipstick-on-the-collar.


 Posted by on May 12, 2011
May 122011

By Graydancer

I confess, I’m a “self-improvement” junkie. I love reading books on lifehacking, on how to get shit done, how to change your four-hour work habits for highly-effective Secrets of the 50 Cent Solution. At the same time, I tend to see the world through kink-colored glasses

Service Sweeter Than Wine

 Posted by on April 16, 2011
Apr 162011

By GrayDancer

“It’s like this,” JP said, gesturing at the glass of wine between us. It was back-lit by the small candle on the table, next to the plate with the three truffles – correction, one truffle and two half-eaten truffles – and adjacent to a pinot grigio shedding an amber glow.

The Pope Broke My iPhone

 Posted by on March 20, 2011
Mar 202011

By GrayDancer

I used to count myself among the faithful. I was, in fact, an evangelist. I eagerly awaited the pronouncements of Steve the Prophet, I endured the Dark Age of Amelio, I was among those on my knees when Wired Magazine published its one-word iconographic cover as it looked like Apple might die

Questioning from Trust

 Posted by on February 23, 2011
Feb 232011

By GrayDancer

Hey, tops. How do you feel when a bottom says “Why did you do that?”

Hey, bottoms. How do you feel when a top slaps your hand away from the rope and mutters “Don’t help.”

Here’s an even more fun one, for those of you in a relationship, mono or non- : “So, now that we’ve met [NAME], what do you think of [GENDER PRONOUN]?”