Sarah Sloane is a sexuality & relationship educator from the Washington DC metro area. She has taught literally hundreds of classes for Sex-Positive, BDSM, and Relationship-oriented organizations and events throughout the US, Canada, and overseas for 9 years; she also works with individuals & small groups to learn skills and techniques to enhance their lives. Additionally, she is a popular guest on numerous podcasts and internet radio shows, and delights in speaking her mind and creating dialogue with listeners across the globe. Read Full Profile...

Thanks, but no thanks!

 Posted by on May 19, 2011
May 192011

By Sarah Sloane

Dear Sarah,

My problem isn’t so much about getting into a relationship, it’s about staying away from one! I am somewhat experienced in the BDSM scene, but I realized I’m having trouble saying no to people for play and sex…

Single, searching submissive

 Posted by on March 25, 2011
Mar 252011

By Sarah Sloane

Dear Sarah,

Last year in your column, you wrote about what a dominant should look for when screening potential submissives. As a submissive, I find that there are a lot of people out there that are looking for someone to be submissive for them, but I have trouble narrowing down the people who are serious about it

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

 Posted by on February 19, 2011
Feb 192011

By Sarah Sloane

Dear Readers,

This month, my column isn’t an answer to a single email. It’s a response to a number of people who contacted me in various ways to ask if I could give them some input on how to handle breakups involving our partners and their other partners, or within a poly group.

Complicated Polyamory

 Posted by on November 20, 2010
Nov 202010

By Sarah Sloane

Dear Sarah,

I am in a poly network that mostly works for me, but one of my partner’s partners and I do not get along. We have tried several ways of communicating and all of it seems to end badly. The other partner & I agreed to not have much contact, but my partner still gets caught in the middle

Enjoy Service, Dislike Assignments

 Posted by on June 4, 2010
Jun 042010

“I enjoy service submission, but sometimes dislike the actual assignments given by Dominants. How do I do things well, when I don’t want to do it?”

That’s totally an understandable situation. I personally hated cleaning the glass & frames for the artwork in my Leather Daddy’s house, to the point where I would literally have to fight myself to do it – so I definitely can relate! Here are a few things to think about…