Sea has been aware of his interest in BDSM since early childhood. He has been a BDSM gypsy of sorts for over 13 years and regularly attends social and educational events across BDSM, leather, and fetish communities in multiple cities including Austin, Dallas, Houston, San Antonio, Los Angeles, New York City, and Washington DC. He is proud to call home Austin, a city where a homeless crossdresser is a local celebrity who ran for mayor, a local band bases all its songs around the lead singer’s fetish for feet, and adults gather each year to celebrate the birthday of Eeyore—yes, Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh! Read Full Profile...

Is BDSM a Matter of Sexual Orientation?

 Posted by on March 17, 2013
Mar 172013
Is BDSM a Matter of Sexual Orientation?

William Saletan argues on that BDSM is not a sexual orientation. Dan Savage agrees (Dan would likely want me to clarify that he doesn’t agree with much else that Saletan says on this matter in case you don’t click on the link to Dan’s article). Let’s take a look at this question, shall we? […]

Please Skip the Please, Thanks for not Thanking Me

 Posted by on February 18, 2013
Feb 182013
Please Skip the Please, Thanks for not Thanking Me

A question arises in BDSM circles from time to time. Should a dominant say please and thank you when interacting with a sub? The title of this column might make you think that please and thank you are for the fakes. Not so! I am not here to say that dominants should avoid saying please […]

Let’s Start from the Top. Or is it Bottom?

 Posted by on December 20, 2012
Dec 202012
Let’s Start from the Top. Or is it Bottom?

“I want to be a dominant! People tell me I should start out as a submissive. Is that right?” Let’s start by taking a look at two reasons why people might suggest this idea. More so in early days of the public and organized BDSM scene, many saw a hierarchy of ranks between dominants and […]

Nov 232012
Gay Man Meets Gay Woman and They Live Happily Ever After!

There was a lesbian couple where one partner was dominant and the other partner was a switch. The switch could not always accommodate the dominant partner’s wants and so they discussed opening their relationship to bring in other submissives who would rank below the switch. And they decided to do just that with submissive men! […]

Using the Force

 Posted by on October 30, 2012
Oct 302012
Using the Force

Editors Note: This article is about consensual BDSM. The author nor the site condones any time of non-consensual abuse. If someone wants to be beaten and is beaten, are they really being beaten? Of course they are! If someone wants to be tied up and is tied up, are they really being tied up? Of […]

Broaching the Topic: BDSM

 Posted by on July 16, 2012
Jul 162012
Broaching the Topic: BDSM

This article is the second of a two-part series about raising the question of BDSM with a potential romantic partner one has met without knowing whether there is a shared interest in BDSM. So you have met someone and you think you hear opportunity knocking. What do do? If you are going to raise the […]

BDSM Explained: Let’s Role. (Roles)

 Posted by on August 7, 2011
Aug 072011

By Sea

This article is second of a three-series article that explains what BDSM is, and why people enjoy it. It would be helpful to those with or without an interest in BDSM who wish to know more about the terms and origins of interest, and those into BDSM who are looking for ideas for how to explain it to others.