“I know for a FACT that, if I actually wanted to or TRIED, I could fuck ANY ONE of my ex-girlfriends!” My other male co-workers nodded in unison at The Cartoonist’s affirmative statement. “Bullshit,” I replied. I demanded that there was no way in hell any guy I’d already been with could just magically get […]
Perhaps the most prevailing trope, the belief to trump all beliefs, about people with disabilities and sex is that we have more important things to worry about, more important things to focus on, than being sexual. Sex permeates our culture, affecting everything from hemlines on skirts to the way cars are advertised, yet for people […]
Polyamory and poly relationships are complex. Which is no surprise if you know anything about or have any experience with polyamory. But for people new to poly, managing poly relationships is an exercise in higher math that they might not be aware of. Let’s take a simple example, and one common to the kink world. […]
There was a lesbian couple where one partner was dominant and the other partner was a switch. The switch could not always accommodate the dominant partner’s wants and so they discussed opening their relationship to bring in other submissives who would rank below the switch. And they decided to do just that with submissive men! […]
I recently wrote a piece called, “How I Practice Good Poly”, which you can see on my blog and on Fetlife. In it, I give a broad overview of some of the strategies and techniques I employ in all of my relationships. One of the ways I practice good relationship is by choosing the Path […]
I get asked a lot about how to go about dating a parent. Like we’re some kind of different species of intimate partner. The conversation sounds similar to when I tell people I have a food allergy. So how do you eat? I have kids, how do you date? Well, I’ve got dating figured out […]
I was running late to church which, as far as I’m concerned, is one of the more horrible feelings of tardiness. Because of my late arrival I had to park far away in the adjunct parking lot which is really just a grassy field and hiked in at a fast clip wearing heels. At least […]
Editors Note: This article is about consensual BDSM. The author nor the site condones any time of non-consensual abuse. If someone wants to be beaten and is beaten, are they really being beaten? Of course they are! If someone wants to be tied up and is tied up, are they really being tied up? Of […]
“I don’t get it! What did I do wrong?!” My sister’s words still ring in my ears as I type this. We’ve all done it at least once in our lives. Maybe women more so than men, maybe some more so than others…but it happens. No, it’s never pretty once we’re finally out of it […]
This article is a continuation of Experiments for Better Sex: Part 1 So now for the specifics… 1. Identify The first thing you have to do is take a good look at your sex life and identify what’s going on. Admit you have a problem, in other words. Ask yourself—and your partner—two questions: What do […]