Arts

  • Interview - Darla Hallmark
    Interview – Darla Hallmark

    By Julian Wolf

    Darla Hallmark might not be a name that you’re familiar with, but if you’ve been in the kink/Leather/Fetish scene for a few years or read fantasy, you’ve likely seen her work. She has supported regional titleholders by painting/drawing their portraits and putting the image on art magnets

  • Innocent and Sublime Paintings of Autumn Skye Morrison
    Innocent and Sublime Paintings of Autumn Skye Morrison

    By T.M. Bernard

    ”Art can be a life shaking experience, or an intimate rendezvous. For me it is both.” – Autumn Skye Morrison

    Autumn Skye Morrison is a Canadian painter whose nude art reflects a rare combination; female nudes swathed in broad strokes of color, some paintings set against a backdrop of stark gray

  • Public Sex
    Public Sex

    By Widow Centauri

    Public Sex: The Culture of Radical Sex (Pat Califia 1994, Cleis Press. San Francisco)

    Public Sex is a series of articles that Pat Califia wrote prior to the mid 1990s. If you are not familiar with Pat Califia you are either new to contemporary queer literature or you have been living under a rock. Califia is one of the leading queer writers of modern times.

  • Artifice and Seduction: the work of Pierre et Gilles
    Artifice and Seduction: the work of Pierre et Gilles

    by Erin Fae

    Pierre Commoy and Gilles Blanchad are partners in love and in art. But for these two men, art and love might be the same thing. The duo, who go by the moniker Pierre et Gilles, have been together since the mid-1970s and have created art as a team ever since. Looking at their work is like falling in love…or lust, for the first time.

  • Femina Potens
    Femina Potens

    by Erin Fae

    You might not think of yourself as an art gallery-going type, but sex-positive porn star Madison Young wants to change that. Then again, her San Francisco community-based space, Femina Potens, is not your typical art gallery.

Community

Living

  • How Bleeding Has Been Stained
    How Bleeding Has Been Stained

    by Deirdre O’Donnell

    Between Lil’ Wayne’s rap about being “a venereal disease, like a menstrual bleed,” Jonah Hill’s about-to-vomit freak out (in the scene from Superbad) when a girl gets menstrual blood on his pant leg while dancing with him, and the fact that boys and girls are still separated for “the talks” in health class around fourth grade

  • How I Got Over My Fear of Male Intimacy (At A Talk About Female Masturbation)
    How I Got Over My Fear of Male Intimacy (At A Talk About Female Masturbation)

    At Burning Man this year, I went to a workshop called “What Is Tantric Sexual [...]

  • If I come out about my alternative lifestyle, can I lose my job?
    If I come out about my alternative lifestyle, can I lose my job?

    by Aimee Bouchard

    There are many ways to “come out.” Whether you transgender, bisexual, lesbian or gay, polyamorous, kinky, etc, there may come a time when you find it necessary to be more open about the fact that your lifestyle may not fit society’s norms.

  • "That" Question
    “That” Question

    by Princess Kali

    “So, what did you say you do for a living?”

    That question, no matter how many times I’ve heard it, always makes my heart skip a beat. It is not a simple question to answer and only opens up a torrent of other questions inside my head, which causes me to pause. And the pause rarely goes unnoticed. Who doesn’t know how to explain what they do for a living?

  • Discovering the Freedom and Flexibility to be Your Freaky Self
    Discovering the Freedom and Flexibility to be Your Freaky Self

    by Leah Shapiro

    In the early stages of our relationship, my lover and I decided to have a few mentoring sessions at the Kink Academy. We’re both kinky, and we wanted to learn how to bring our kinks into our relationship in a satisfying & fun way.

Relationships

  • Mr. Good on Paper
    Mr. Good on Paper

    by Amethyst Wonder

    I know quite a few people who claim to have had success on CollarMe. I am not one of them. There was the guy who had not one punctuation mark in his message. There was the guy who wrote me a semi-decent message, only to write another message 34 minutes later berating me for not answering quickly enough.

  • Wet
    Wet

    By Viola

    When I was in college and stuck in the middle of writing a paper, I would take a shower. I liked showering in the elegant bathrooms in the dorms – the stalls themselves were beautiful, white and gray marble that echoed the splattering of water, the black and white basket-weave tile carefully preserved on the floor. Each shower-head had a plastic card hanging from it with instructions on how to perform a breast self-exam.

  • Where to start?
    Where to start?

    Dear Sarah,

    My partner and I are just starting to explore service-giving & receiving, and I must confess that I’m stumped as to how to start. Yesterday, I helped her dress and tied her shoes, and I enjoyed it greatly, but I’m not sure where else to go. Please help?

    -A.

  • D/s Rituals for the Holiday's
    D/s Rituals for the Holiday’s

    em>By Sarah Sloane

    Dear Sarah,

    I’m involved in a D/s dynamic and as the holiday’s approach we’ve decided that we want to make our own non-religious rituals to enjoy. We’re not sure what we should do, but we want to have fun with it, any ideas?

    -Signed, Holly

  • What Did You Call Me: Heteroflexible
    What Did You Call Me: Heteroflexible

    By Amethyst Wonder

    This month I decided to focus on one label, so I chose one from my own self-identification.

    Until about a year and a half ago, I’d identified as straight for my entire life. I never felt uncomfortable with it, never felt it didn’t fit me.

Spirituality

  • Of Kink and Discernment
    Of Kink and Discernment

    Discernment exists in many forms. For anyone who has ever considered becoming a lay person [...]

  • The Beginning
    The Beginning

    by Mako Allen

    Years ago, I had a profound spiritual experience at a pagan festival, which resulted in my casting aside my atheist and objectivist beliefs, and becoming more spiritual. Pagans find their own particular path. The one that called to me the loudest was Taoism.

  • Junk-Food Sex, Fast-Food Sex and Soul-Food Sex
    Junk-Food Sex, Fast-Food Sex and Soul-Food Sex

    by T.M. Bernard

    Sex and food are two primal urges with more in common than our basic survival. Who can argue that lusting after one another over a good meal is double the corporeal pleasure? On the other hand, gluttony of either leaves lovers sore and aching when they fail to say “enough” or “slow down” before that final tempting morsel.

  • Image and Likeness of God
    Image and Likeness of God

    by CK Persons

    Humans are made in the image and likeness of God, according to the Hebrew Scriptures (Genesis 1:27). The Hebrew words selem (image) and demut (likeness) basically mean representation. Some scholars state that the words suggest counterpart as well.

  • The Other Side of Her
    The Other Side of Her

    by Ms. Selina Minx

    When working with archetypal beings and states of consciousness one must remember a basic law of the universe, “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction”. By meditating on this law, we can realize that every state of ecstasy will be followed with a state of <non> ecstasy. This law applies to much more than just the physical universe, it applies to our inner world and it’s rhythms as well.

Style

  • Make your next event a stress free fashion experience
    Make your next event a stress free fashion experience

    by Nina Love

    I’m a clothes whore, take more than I need and rarely travel with less than six pairs of shoes. But I make it all fit. More importantly, I pack with a specific purpose and it isn’t getting it all in the bag. My purpose? Reduce stress and primping time. Here’s how I do it.

  • The Sex Closet
    The Sex Closet

    For a proper Fantasy Sex Life, you need to have your Sex Closet fully stocked [...]

  • Feast Your Eyes
    Feast Your Eyes

    By Julian Wolf

    Most of us go through our day to day lives in familiar surroundings. The same home, the same route to work, the same isles to walk down at the same stores; the familiar is all around us. We sit in the same places, and move in the same circles. It’s easy to get lost in the familiar

  • How The Rabbit Vibrator Has Evolved
    How The Rabbit Vibrator Has Evolved

    Ever since that Sex and the City episode, the Rabbit vibrator has quickly become a [...]

  • Pretty Boy
    Pretty Boy

    Recently I was told that I am “not allowed” to “be a boy” if I’m [...]