While the holidays may be drawing to a close, the reasons to throw a dinner party are endless. Moving away from elves and holly, we can draw on darker tones. In my last article I described ways to begin planning a dinner party with a more adult theme. Today I am expanding on that idea! […]
The ancient Romans loved their gods, and they had many. Modern society could probably use a few more gods to grant us perspective and the occasional favor. Regardless of how much any person believed in the divine existence of the dozens of deities, they still served a purpose. The polytheistic world gave people a focus […]
Kinky folks, myself included, are often completely obsessed with genesis. I don’t mean the one in the Christian bible, but rather their own genesis, “how they came to be the kinky person they are”. A good friend of mine, the sex therapist Dr. Gloria Brame, says that it’s incredibly common for kinksters to carry around […]
We’ve all learned the secret to good, successful relationships by now, right? Communicate, communicate, communicate! It’s one of the favorite mantras of relationship counselors the world over. Whether you’re trying to solve issues with integrating your girlfriend’s boyfriend’s new lover into your poly family, planning a special activity with your spouse of 30+ years to […]
“Swans mate for life.” Heard that before? I’m sure someone reading this has. Just one problem – closer scientific observation has shown that it ain’t necessarily so. Some swans cheat, have open marriages, and even divorce. Besides, we’re not swans. We’re not even in the same class. So why do some religious folks try to […]
“I want to be a dominant! People tell me I should start out as a submissive. Is that right?” Let’s start by taking a look at two reasons why people might suggest this idea. More so in early days of the public and organized BDSM scene, many saw a hierarchy of ranks between dominants and […]
This fall and winter the fashion world has embraced fur again. Open any magazine and you’ll see fur trimmed collars, hats, boots… Fur was all over those dang pages. When I purchased the enormous fall issue of Vogue, I remember feeling appalled at all the fur. I couldn’t believe that designers were revisiting it. Hadn’t […]
Most of the clients we work with are pretty well skilled in communication. Given that most of them are some type of sex educator or worker, it’s vital that they be able to communicate what they need, want, will/won’t accept and often to teach their clients and students those same skills. But there is one […]
Being a male at this time on the planet, it is somewhat disappointing to see the lack of concern among my fellow men to work on internal issues. We have been taught to deal with everything externally, instead of dealing with our inner emotions and blockages that hold us back from evolving. For most of […]
When last I visited my Seattle boyfriend, we were holding hands in public on our way to a movie in the downtown area. After many years of therapy and self-work to rid myself of abusive religion in my childhood, I was proud of myself for being so comfortable — almost unconscious about expressing basic affection […]