I’m fond of saying – “I’m the Domme you can take home to your mom.” I’ve spent my personal & professional lives focused on learning what makes people tick as well as how to influence their behavior. Successfully navigating the vanilla and BDSM worlds via these insights, I’ve been an active part of the public kink scene since 2006. I have found the friendships and relationships I’ve made in the BDSM world to be among the most warm and wonderful in my life. Female Dominated relationships and Sadism have been a life long part of my sexual expression. I am the proud owner of a sexy Switch Boy, who also happens to be my life partner. I am grateful every day that I have found a home, a family and fallen in love. Along the way, I have learned a great many things as a person, a kinkster, a community member, a Leather Family member, a mentor, event host & officer of the world’s oldest kink organization. I’d like to share these insights with you to help you make your experience in the scene the best it can be. If you have a question about how to navigate a sticky social situation, please ask. Read Full Profile ...

Jun 242013
Getting What You Want - 3 Things NOT to do

by AliceSin Aerie

The most sure-fire way to get what you want out of any interaction is breathtakingly simple: make the other party want to give it to you.
Anyone can use negative tactics & force get what they want in the short term, the savvy kinkster creates positive experiences to forge connections that keep on giving over time. To that end, I’ve listed my top three pet peeves in the community – the best thing about these negative behaviors is that they are great examples of what not to do.

Venturing into the Kink Community

 Posted by on June 8, 2013
Jun 082013
Venturing into the Kink Community

By AliceSin Aerie

Whether you have just stumbled into a new fascination or have been a long time private player, starting out in the social world of the kink community can be daunting. Some basic information will help you put your best foot forward.

I Do Not Want to Have “Fat Sex”

 Posted by on September 11, 2011
Sep 112011

By AliceSin Aerie People who are experts in what has been dubbed “Fat Sex” want fat people to be treated with kindness and respect for their body in regards to sex. I think that is commendable. I also think it is myopic. I am a great many things. In the list of titles and attributes […]

Keep It Moving

 Posted by on February 22, 2011
Feb 222011

By AliceSin Aerie

I’m going to blow my wad right up front and tell you the best thing I know: Keep It Moving

When brainstorming about this month’s column I found myself weighing out the best piece of wisdom I have ever received. I can’t say it came from one particular source but was more synchronicity that converged upon me over a short span of time.

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Trolls, Creeps and Other Volunteers

 Posted by on January 20, 2011
Jan 202011

By AliceSin Aerie

In every organization or party there’s always that small minority of individuals who, if you had your way, would not be on the invitation list. They are not appealing in appearance and/or personality. On top of everything else, not only are they always around but often they are on staff.

You’re Not MY Dom/me!

 Posted by on October 23, 2010
Oct 232010

By AliceSin Aerie

As a proponent of personal decorum, I rarely go on a public rant. However, several months ago a major peeve of mine rubbed me so raw that I went on a Twitter bender.

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Sep 182010

By AliceSin Aerie

Not long ago, in a place just near by, I was hosting a kink community party. No dress code was required at the establishment, but dressing for the theme, in fetish wear or basic black was strongly encouraged. As the clock neared closing time and the crowd began to thin, terrific screams could be heard from the back…