originally posted September 8, 2011 Once you get into the online polyamory world, it won’t be long before you see your first personal ad from a couple looking for their “unicorn”. All of you poly veterans out there are already nodding your heads. In the poly world, a “unicorn” is a young, single, non-crazy, sexually [...]
My day job consists of me writing for an instructional porn company for men. Yeah, I know. Of the numerous emails we get from men asking how to be the man that all women want and all men envy, we get a few from the women who have discovered their men buying instructional sex videos. [...]
We’ve all learned the secret to good, successful relationships by now, right? Communicate, communicate, communicate! It’s one of the favorite mantras of relationship counselors the world over. Whether you’re trying to solve issues with integrating your girlfriend’s boyfriend’s new lover into your poly family, planning a special activity with your spouse of 30+ years to [...]
I decided to meditate before a play session earlier this month. I had a busy morning. I had some spiritual meetings to attend before I came back to being present for a play session, and since I was hyper-focused on everything going on, short of what I really should have been focusing on, I decided [...]
Last weekend I experienced the following: My hand was kissed in a gloriously, old-fashioned way I’ve only read about in books. I touched a friend’s party dress and spike heels. I received a lovely hug from an actress in the adult film industry. Perhaps these situations seem unusual to you. Perhaps they seem unconnected. Perhaps [...]
By Lucy Lemonade The art of conversation has gotten lost in the new age of email and instant messages. Picking up on my last article regarding social networking and kink, I’m going to discuss the ins and outs of the introduction message. Many social networking sites have the ability to browse profiles and send a [...]
By Sarah Sloane Dear Sarah, I am a novice dominant and I’m interested in finding a submissive; I’ve been trying to get to know people at my local munch group (as well as online) but I’m having trouble with finding someone special. Some people treat me like I don’t know anything because I’m young (I’m [...]
By Jay Morgan One of the many reasons I like to play golf is that it is entirely up to me, and only me, to play well. No matter whether you are a professional, amateur, or weekend hacker, every golf course gives each player the same chances to score well. Similar to bowling, billards, or [...]
By Graydancer “It’s hard to wait for something you know might never happen, but it’s hard to give up when it’s everything you want.” – SexCigarsBooze, via Twitter Change is hard. It reflects an uncertainty to life that we don’t like. We like to feel like we know what’s going to happen, even when the [...]
By lunaKM Foreplay. It is what we do to arouse ourselves and our partners before sex. We all have different things we enjoy for foreplay and the time we like to spend on foreplay before sex. Having sex with an overweight partner is about awareness as well as passion. You want to make sure that [...]