You Don’t Get What You Don’t Ask For

 Posted by on December 18, 2012
Dec 182012
 
You Don’t Get What You Don’t Ask For

Most of the clients we work with are pretty well skilled in communication. Given that most of them are some type of sex educator or worker, it’s vital that they be able to communicate what they need, want, will/won’t accept and often to teach their clients and students those same skills. But there is one […]

Sexy Gift Giving Guide for 2012

 Posted by on December 11, 2012
Dec 112012
 
Sexy Gift Giving Guide for 2012

Alright everyone, it’s time for the requisite holiday gift-giving guide! A tradition of sharing favorites from the year which will make the recipient happy all the next year long! Some of these do have affiliate code links, but I never recommend anything unless I actually believe it’s a quality product or service. Personal recommendations should […]

Becoming Badass

 Posted by on December 7, 2012
Dec 072012
 
Becoming Badass

There’s something of a crisis of celebrity in kink world.  There just aren’t enough superstars for us to look up to.  This is completely opposite of what we hear about mainstream society, where celebrity worship is blamed for the downfall of society on a regular basis.  Kink-dom does have a few who qualify for name-in-lights […]

Life-Saving Lewdness

 Posted by on November 24, 2012
Nov 242012
 
Life-Saving Lewdness

You’ve probably all heard that there’s nothing to fear but fear itself.  If you’re anything like me, you probably always wondered what the fuck that even meant and why everybody always said it to you when you were scared of something (I personally told all said people to fuck off and fear my wrath if […]

Nov 222012
 
The what, why & how of income reporting for the Sex Worker

In the wild world of business taxes, expenses get the most attention. Business people want to focus on them because they lower income, thus lower tax due. Well, something many business people do not know is that income is scrutinized just as carefully as expenses by the ever vigilant hawk-like eyes of the IRS agent. […]

To Have, Or Just To Hold

 Posted by on November 18, 2012
Nov 182012
 
To Have, Or Just To Hold

Often I have wondered if the way I touch someone has been physically and emotionally perceived as I intended it.  Was the touch received as gentle when I meant it to be firm?  Was the touch received as intimate when I meant it to be casual?  It’s hard, really, to practice touch. There are so […]

Gender and Compromise

 Posted by on November 11, 2012
Nov 112012
 
Gender and Compromise

All-or-nothing…compromise…all-or-nothing…compromise.  So beat the political drum for decades, with both parties electing theirs on all-or-nothing platforms, but most legislation happening as a result of compromise.  But you cannot help but notice that talk of compromise is at an all-time low, at least on the national stage.  In Massachusetts on the other hand, if you look […]

Nov 072012
 
There’s a reason the words “sexy fundamentalists” are rarely used together.

I had a stranger on Facebook — one who looked to be a conservative Christian by the profile — ask me, “What exactly is sexology and why do we need to study it? Is there some purpose for it? Most people know how to have babies. Just trying to understand.” It was an important and […]

Access This

 Posted by on November 1, 2012
Nov 012012
 
Access This

Accessibility. We tend to give that a lot of lip service, whether we’re talking about sex education or kink events, but honestly, do we even know what that actually means? In conversation about events, we speak to wanting them to be accessible, and everyone nods their head, but how do we know what accessible is […]