Believe it or not, there are a lot of junky methods out there that are commonly thought to help you last longer in bed but that actually create more problems than they (try to) solve. The worst thing about it is that some guys see a slight improvement when using them for the first time […]
As I wrote in a My Open Relationship Rules, I have no rules for my relationship partners, except one: Use a condom. Everything else is fine with me and/or negotiable. This is apparently an unusual situation: most people in non-monogamous relationships have rules about who, when, where, what, how, and/or how often they can fuck/date/love […]
This article was written by and about adults engaging in consensual age-play. Finding Daddy Finding Little by Daddy Vinnie It started as simple correspondence. For about a week, her words spoke directly to me with the child-like innocence, though she was 25 years old. I was 48. Her captivating writing had awakened the Daddy in […]
Once you get into the online polyamory world, it won’t be long before you see your first personal ad from a couple looking for their “unicorn”. All of you poly veterans out there are already nodding your heads. In the poly world, a “unicorn” is a young, single, non-crazy, sexually adventurous, drug and disease-free bisexual […]
By Sarah Sloane
Dear Sarah,
My partner and I are going to our first BDSM event, and we’re really nervous about it. We’re new to BDSM, and while we’ve been to a few munches and one play party we are still unsure about where we fit in…
This article is the first of a two-part series about raising the question of BDSM with a potential romantic partner one has met without knowing whether there is a shared interest in BDSM. It was originally posted July 28, 2012 According to statistics on the website for The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, […]
Dear Sarah,
I am a Dominant looking for a service submissive, what is best way to screen someone?
Signed, K.
Many of us have been lead into believing intimacy is limited to the act of having sex alone. Ironically, our misunderstanding of intimacy has influenced the development of unfulfilled sex lives within our relationships. We base too much of our bonding on a physical aspect alone. Being fully present and sharing with our romantic partners, […]
William Saletan argues on slate.com that BDSM is not a sexual orientation. Dan Savage agrees (Dan would likely want me to clarify that he doesn’t agree with much else that Saletan says on this matter in case you don’t click on the link to Dan’s article). Let’s take a look at this question, shall we? […]
If you follow my “Deeper Love” movement, you will notice that I always express how much I honor and support women stepping into their feminine power. Contrary to what some people seem to assume, my admiration for a woman’s power has nothing to do with receiving sexual gratification in return. There are many reasons why […]