Jun 062013
Why I feel no jealousy

As I wrote in a My Open Relationship Rules, I have no rules for my relationship partners, except one: Use a condom. Everything else is fine with me and/or negotiable. This is apparently an unusual situation: most people in non-monogamous relationships have rules about who, when, where, what, how, and/or how often they can fuck/date/love […]

May 292013
An intro to "A Daddy Dom and his little girl" - a new column

This article was written by and about adults engaging in consensual age-play. Finding Daddy Finding Little by Daddy Vinnie It started as simple correspondence. For about a week, her words spoke directly to me with the child-like innocence, though she was 25 years old. I was 48. Her captivating writing had awakened the Daddy in […]

May 232013
Stalking the Elusive "Unicorn"

Once you get into the online polyamory world, it won’t be long before you see your first personal ad from a couple looking for their “unicorn”. All of you poly veterans out there are already nodding your heads. In the poly world, a “unicorn” is a young, single, non-crazy, sexually adventurous, drug and disease-free bisexual […]

Understanding True Intimacy

 Posted by on April 2, 2013
Apr 022013
Understanding True Intimacy

Many of us have been lead into believing intimacy is limited to the act of having sex alone.  Ironically, our misunderstanding of intimacy has influenced the development of unfulfilled sex lives within our relationships.  We base too much of our bonding on a physical aspect alone.  Being fully present and sharing with our romantic partners, […]

Is BDSM a Matter of Sexual Orientation?

 Posted by on March 17, 2013
Mar 172013
Is BDSM a Matter of Sexual Orientation?

William Saletan argues on slate.com that BDSM is not a sexual orientation. Dan Savage agrees (Dan would likely want me to clarify that he doesn’t agree with much else that Saletan says on this matter in case you don’t click on the link to Dan’s article). Let’s take a look at this question, shall we? […]

Why I Honor The Divine Feminine

 Posted by on March 8, 2013
Mar 082013
Why I Honor The Divine Feminine

If you follow my “Deeper Love” movement, you will notice that I always express how much I honor and support women stepping into their feminine power.  Contrary to what some people seem to assume, my admiration for a woman’s power has nothing to do with receiving sexual gratification in return.  There are many reasons why […]